According to WeddingWire’s 2019 Newlywed Report, in heterosexual relationships, brides take on 54 percent of the wedding planning, while grooms only handle about 25 percent (the rest is left to parents and others).
So, yeah, if you’re a bride, you’re much more likely to be doing a ton of the heavy lifting, and we commend you for it!
But, hear us out: The guys should really be more involved. Why? There are a ton of different reasons why you and your fiancé should plan that wedding together, but first and foremost: It’s his day too.
It may take a little convincing, but it will be well worth his while when he shows up at the venue on the wedding day and sees part of his vision executed.
Here are some more reasons why both spouses should take a hands-on approach to planning the nuptials, from the food to the music, to the chair covers and wedding rings.
And, also some tips for getting your partner involved with planning your wedding
1. The wedding reflects both spouses’ personal style
According to the aforementioned report, about 20 percent of couples pick out the engagement ring together.
As unromantic as it may sound, we’re proponents of the collaborative ring-shopping process (or at least some heavy hint-dropping). And the same goes for the groom’s wedding band.
You’re going to rock these rings for eternity, so you need to make sure you actually like looking at them day in and day out.
2. It helps smash gender stereotypes
Who says guys can’t have an opinion about table settings, bouquets, and shoes? We don’t know about you, but we know tons of traditionally masculine dudes who are pretty detail-oriented, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Telling them that they shouldn’t have an opinion on any facet of the event—except for maybe the dresses, the bachelorette party, and your wedding ring—only strengthens outdated gender norms and squashes creativity.
3. It prevents one spouse from developing resentment
Look, wedding planning isn’t easy. The constant barrage of little tasks and lingering decisions that seem to loom overhead perpetually can stress anyone out.
On top of that, the primary planner is forced to deal with the inevitable family conflicts and constant opinions, and that alone could make anyone go crazy. All while his or her spouse lives in a state of ignorant bliss?
That sounds like a recipe for resentment to us! Share the stress and have a happy marriage!